So, we had a chance in the state of Maine to live up to our Latin motto: “Dirigo”, meaning “I direct”.

Clearly not a mandate, but a victory for homophobia nonetheless, 53 percent of Maine’s voters repealed the same-sex marriage on Tuesday.  The shame I feel for my home state is almost more than I can express.

We had the chance to show the rest of the nation that it doesn’t matter what consenting adults choose to do with their genitals and how that choice informs who they’d like to marry and share a house and a car and mortgage and a checkbook and a bathroom and a life with.  We had the chance to stand up and say, “Everyone deserves equal protection under the law in regards to marriage.”  We had the chance to stand up to the bible-thumpers and the voyeurs and the peeping toms and the hateful bigots and the scaredy-cats and say, “Enough is enough!”

We had the chance, but did we blow it?  This time, maybe.

But this fight, like any other, will take time.  It will take time for people to accept the idea that not everyone makes love in the same manner.  It will take time for people to warm up to the idea of allowing men to marry men and women to marry women.  This may be the end of this particular campaign, but this is certainly not the end of the story.  Like any other civil rights fight, this one will be largely uphill, and will have to be won one conversation, one heart, one mind at a time.

Just listen to this guy.  He’s got it right:

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Up here in Maine, there will be a legislative session on April 28th to deal with a bill that would legalize gay marriage in this state.  There was a big hearing this week at the Augusta Civic Center, where supporters of the bill were all dressed in red (to symbolize love?  out for blood? who knows..).

On the local news after the hearing, I heard an old man step up to the microphone and say, “Well, I don’t mean any harm to these people, but, no.. marriage is for a man and a woman.”

I know I’ve written about this before, but I really can’t understand the logic of not allowing gays the right to marry.

Would someone please logically explain to me why gay people shouldn’t be able to marry one another.  Don’t say it’s because they can’t procreate.  Fuck that argument.  That would be akin to telling post-menopausal women, women who have had hysterectomies, and any and all infertile heterosexuals that they can’t get married, either.   So that argument is out the window.

So, it’s because the bible says it’s wrong?  Some friggin’ book? Where does it actually say that?  I think that whole bit in Leviticus is taken out of context.  Think about it.  When those words were scribed, disease was rampant – personal hygiene was nearly impossible in the searing hot desert, with everyone living in close quarters with other humans, with animals, with unrefrigerated meat.  Anal sex was frowned on, as was eating the flesh of certain animals – not because, I don’t think, because of any moral implications, but simply because it was literally unclean.  They were trying to preserve human life by cutting down on the spread of disease as much as they could.  Makes sense.  So, in the sanitized 21st century, I think we can safely do without the puritanical witch-hunts.  Another argument fucked!

Some say it makes a mockery of the institution of marriage.  And how, exactly, does this occur?  How does the gay couple, paying their taxes and cleaning the garage and mowing the lawn and having sex and eating dinner and watching TV, living next door to a straight couple doing all the same shit make a bit of difference to the institution of marriage?  Oh yeah, the “building block of civilization” argument.  Hey, not everyone gets married just to have kids.  Some people get married because *GASP* they love each other and want to build a life together, in whatever form that takes.  Some have kids.  Some don’t.  Some work together.  Some start a business together.  Some love their pets.  I don’t need to belabor the point.  The institution of marriage is different for every married couple.  So fuck that argument, too.

And let’s drop the “gay agenda” and “recruitment” arguments, too.  If anyone has an agenda, it’s the religious nutcases, who want have a monopoly on all things pertaining to human sexuality and morality – basically, they wanna control your every movement and tell you what to think and when to think it, in exchange for a tenth of your income.  Talk about an agenda!

And definitely FUCK the argument that says, “We gotta keep the gays away from kids, because they’ll molest them.”  If I could legally put bullets in the heads of the assholes who believe this kind of shit, I might consider it.

Let’s be honest – it’s all about genitalia, isn’t it?  Come on now.  Penises and pussies.  That’s what this WHOLE friggin’ debate is about – what are people doing with their genitals?  Bunch of fucking voyeurs that we are.  I can’t imagine a more grotesque invasion of privacy than a collective, societal fixation on the goings-on of the individual human’s genitalia.  You, opponent of gay marriage, say you can’t understand how one man could want to fuck another man?  Well, they just as equally can’t understand why you would wanna fuck some woman.  Me, I don’t give two shits about what Adam and Bruce are doing next door in their bedroom.  Why should anyone give a damn?  It’s their business, not anyone else’s.

What should we uphold – a committed gay relationship, or a couple of drunk straight twenty-somethings who get married on a whim by an Elvis impersonator in Vegas?  I mean, come on.

Shit, let ’em marry.  Then they can grow to resent one another, withhold sex and be miserable like all the other married people I know.